Five favorite things that I’ve read/heard/seen this week.
1. We judge ourselves by our intentions while we judge others by their actions. ~ marsha
And the world would be a better place if we would strive to rise above this tendency. If we would try harder to see how our actions may appear to others, and try to see the intentions behind the actions of others.
2. Time and money. ~ zbp
When you have the time often you don’t have the money. Conversely if you have the money you don’t have the time. Learn to know when you are in the sweet spot.
3. The person who cares less controls the relationship. ~ rr
This simple maxim is unpleasant to many but in practice true for almost all interactions between you and an external entity, whether that entity is at the personal level (a significant other or friend) or at sweeping scales. It is at the heart of understanding whether you can or cannot negotiate and the degree of latitude you have. It is a lens into reality that wishful thinking cannot provide. This is also a much more honest answer to interpersonal dynamics than “patriarchy” and similar assertions.
4. Writing should be sensual. ~ grumblebee
This applies to non-fiction as well as fiction. Why? Because readers perceive things through their senses. If you don’t evoke taste, touch, smell, sight or hearing, you’ll have a hard time getting readers to care about — or grasp — your concept.
5. From Pride and Prejudice and Zombies, the latest adaptation of Jane Austen’s classic, the first line:
“It is a truth universally acknowledged that a zombie in possession of brains must be in want of more brains.”
“She remembered the lead ammunition in her pocket and offered it to him.
“Your balls, Mr Darcy”?
He reached out and closed her hand around them and offered:
“They belong to you Miss Bennet. They belong to you.”