Finally after two years of waiting (mostly because of red tape) I closed a chapter of my life-book, the marriage. Last week the judge granted a divorce to me. I couldnt have gone through the past two years without the support of my close friends: H, S and T. They are my place, my den to unwind, to explore, to express and to recapture.
According to a book Connecting: The Enduring Power of Friendship by William Morrow, there are 10 forms of friends you need:
1. a mentor you can ask for advice
2. a nurturer who lets you lean on him/her
3. an ally who always backs you up
4. a soul mate who shares your views
5. work mates you can hang with at the office
6. history friends who ‘knew you when’ and help you recapture the good times of the past
7. ensemble friends you usually socialize with as group.
8. a life mate who is at a similar stage in life, like pregnant mothers who expresses the same feelings and concerns as you
9. a companion in crisis who shares your pain when say, your apt.’s building elevator breaks down and you’re stuck in the dark for 2 hrs.
10. your complementary opposite whose strengths are your weaknesses, allowing you to express new interests.
You may only have one best friend, but s/he carries most of the above roles. And the rest are still your friends or mates. In layman’s term, friends are like television. Some are like PBS and always asking for money. Others are like the news, with sad tales to tell everyday, some are like that one station with the foreign language; you don’t understand a word of it but you listen and watch. I tend to be that foreign channel.
I wore this outfit yesterday to collect my divorce decree at the Court Records.
Tahari heels – Goodwill $3.99
Vintage Pendleton skirt – part of my $5/bag loot from Seventh-Day Adventist Church thrift store.
Robert Graham shirt – Goodwill $3.59
Laundry by Shelli Shegal cardigan – Goodwill $3.59
Skinny belt & vintage Monet – Salvation Army $1.00 each
Anne Klein & Fossil watches – yard sale & Goodwill
Linking up to Kileen’s Color Brigade.