I adore you

Richard Feynman, Nobel Prize physicist, veteran of the Manhattan Project, safecracker, bongo player, exuberent writer, ultra-nerd and all round joy, lost his wife to tuberculosis after a few short years of marriage.

Here is a fragment of a terrific selection of his letters in The Guardian:

“Arline Feynman died on June 16, 1945. The paper on which this letter was written is well worn, and it appears as though he reread it often.

To Arline Feynman, October 17, 1946

D’Arline,

I adore you, sweetheart … It is such a terribly long time since I last wrote to you — almost two years but I know you’ll excuse me because you understand how I am, stubborn and realistic; and I thought there was no sense to writing. But now I know my darling wife that it is right to do what I have delayed in doing, and what I have done so much in the past. I want to tell you I love you.

I find it hard to understand in my mind, what it means to love you after you are dead — but I still want to comfort and take care of you — and I want you to love me and care for me. I want to have problems to discuss with you — I want to do little projects with you. I never thought until just now that we can do that. What should we do. We started to learn to make clothes together — or learn Chinese — or getting a movie projector.

Can’t I do something now? No. I am alone without you and you were the “idea-woman” and general instigator of all our wild adventures. When you were sick you worried because you could not give me something that you wanted to and thought I needed. You needn’t have worried.

Just as I told you then, there was no real need because I loved you, in so many ways so much. And now it is clearly even more true — you can give me nothing now, yet I love you so, that you stand in my way of loving anyone else — but I want to stand there.

I’ll bet that you are surprised that I don’t even have a girlfriend after two years. But you can’t help it, darling, nor can I — I don’t understand it, for I have met many girls … and I don’t want to remain alone — but in two or three meetings they all seem ashes. You only, are left to me. You are real.

My darling wife, I do adore you. I love my wife. My wife is dead.

Rich.

PS: Please excuse my not mailing this — but I don’t know your new address.”

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Nine West heels – $3.99
Simply Vera skirt – Kohls clearance
Talbots blouse – $3.59
Skinny belt – $1.59
Teal beads necklace & silver cat bracelet – $2.99 each

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